Denny, we have about thirty to 40 people here on the 4th. Kids, grandkids, whoever shows up is fine.
We sit around for a few hours swapping tall tales and telling of vacations. Some have a few beers, I have my iced tea. Dinner starts at about 4 and lasts until around 8 when we pack things away and go to the lake a couple blocks away for the fireworks. Then we all come back to our home and really celebrate. I am a firm believer in celebrating the 4th with some smoke and noise. None of the spit and fizzle stuff the state allows....I am talking boomers. My theme song during all of this is "you light up my life" by whoever it was that sang it.
During the day I have stuff for the young children to do but I supervise very closely. If theyt are 3 years old or more, they get their own chance to play with some of the ground toys. I spend time with each child one at a time. If they do not care for the noise, we don't force them. I've got grandsons 16 years old that are still under my thumb when it comes to the playthings. I am a huge fan of celebrating this holiday to the max but I am also a staunch believer in safety and that aspect gets pounded into these kids heads from the get go.